I strive to live a conscious life and be less and less judgmental of myself, and where others are in their journey here on Earth. I like the philosophy that we’re all doing the best we can with the tools we’ve been given and the level of consciousness we’re at. (Yes, I will view a situation or a person’s behavior as either healthy or unhealthy for all involved but I try not to judge the individual as good or bad.)
Being fully conscious involves a multitude of layers, however, I’m touching on what I consider to be the basics here. I’m referring to how aware you are of yourself and your own actions, the world around you and other people’s feelings and experiences.
It’s a challenge to live this way. It’s much easier to live unconsciously in this crazy world. Our whole society is built to keep us happily unconscious.
Choosing to be fully conscious takes great courage. It’s not a path all are ready for.
You may be frequently self-conscious but it’s not the same thing as being conscious of self. It takes a lot of attention, intention, and introspection to become self-aware. Even then, you can’t always know how your actions, inactions, or reactions are affecting others. I love the expression, “We can’t see ourselves because our eyes are in our heads.” It’s silly but it’s also profoundly true. You can often think you’re being and acting a certain way only to be shocked to find out how others have perceived you.
Have you ever seen a Dr.Phil show (is he still on?) where he puts a camera into a dysfunctional family’s home (dysfunctional, lol, who isn’t?) and the family members are shocked at how they appear on film. They’re actually seeing themselves, from the point of others, for the first time. It can be a real wake-up call.
Awareness of Others
It’s extremely complicated to be conscious of other’s feelings and perceptions. You may often assume others feel and see things as you do but are you taking into account who they are as a unique individual or what experiences they’ve had to influence their views on life? If you’re naturally empathic, this may not come as hard for you but even then, it takes work.
Awareness of the World
Being conscious of the world around you and at large is another challenge altogether. The state of the world can be dismal and overwhelming. You may feel sadness, anxiety, fear, separation, and/or a plethora of other emotions. Your daily personal life and struggles will often preoccupy your mind. You may not feel emotionally equipped to even acknowledge the state of the world.
My point is, life isn’t a breeze for any of us. It will serve you to be aware of this and be gentle with your judgments towards others and yourself.
My Personal Evolution
Over 20 years ago, when I first moved to Ontario from Montreal, I lived in a small basement apartment in an old, ‘victorian cottage style’ home. One particular summer, when I lived there, the earwigs were overrunning the area. They were crawling in through my windows and even into my bed. I was freaked out and grossed out. I told the landlord, who lived upstairs, that I was having exterminators come to spray the outside of the home. She tried to talk me out of it but I told her I had to draw the line when the critters started joining me in bed.
Today, my relationship with Nature is much more connected. I’m disappointed, in thinking back, at how quickly I was willing to jump to a toxic solution to the problem. That was all I knew at the time. These days I would exhaust all alternatives before resorting to spraying though I know there are still circumstances that may necessitate this worst scenario.
So just as I endeavor to forgive myself and not judge where I’m at, at any particular point in my life, I extend that to others. And no, it’s not always easy.
My Love and I have similar as well as differing worldviews. Though he loves Nature and respects my connection to her, he doesn’t have the same relationship with her. We navigate many compromises because of this. In the end, we strive for a balance, between ourselves and our relationship to Nature. I can be radical in so many things; he’s a little more mainstream but enough ‘outside of the box’ that I can live with it. 😉
If you’re choosing to live consciously, it’s crucial to be gentle and loving with yourself. It’s important to discover and understand your own values and look at the person you want to be. Who are you at your essence and how can you live the best version of yourself in this lifetime? Self-love, self-appreciation, and self-forgiveness are the first and perpetual steps. Only then can you truly give it to others.
So, in the end, remember, “It’s not easy being green.” but ” Someday we’ll find it, the rainbow connection, you lovers, you dreamers and me.” 😉
Want a shot of encouragement and inspiration to keep on the path less traveled? Go check out my ‘Wild Child Day’ playlist on Spotify. 🙂 It just might make your day.
You’re welcome! 😉 XO