Being a Grown-up is Overrated.
I don’t know about you but when I was a kid, I was in such a rush to grow up. Being a grownup meant you could go to any movie you wanted to, go to bed and wake up whenever you wanted, drive anywhere you wanted. You made your own choices. Best part, you didn’t have to go to school if you didn’t want to.
Being a “special” child who didn’t fit into the school system as it was, made this seem like the ultimate dream. If I’d been in the school system now, they would have identified my learning challenges and gotten me help but back then, they didn’t have any of those systems in place. (I would have thrived with home-schooling.)
Of course, once you’re a grown-up, you realize making all your own choices can be an awfully heavy burden and every choice has its consequences as well as benefits. Life choices can really suck.
You inevitably make a lot of choices without sufficient information. You make choices for immediate gratification instead of for your long-term good. In general, you can’t help but make a pile of really crappy choices along with hopefully many good ones. And each choice affects those closest to you, as well as having far-reaching effects you can never know.
We didn’t know how good we had it as kids. We had no idea the degree of freedom we truly had.
I get that this isn’t necessarily the case for everyone. Some of you may have had really tough childhoods and growing up was a way to escape the situation. The way I see it, this wasn’t a true childhood. Sometimes innocence is taken far too soon and childhood is stolen away at too young an age.
What I want to say is, it’s never too late. You still have that beautiful, innocent yet powerful child inside of you. The society we created tends to keep us very serious, stressed and in fear. It doesn’t encourage independent thinking or reward challenges to the status quo. But you still have a choice.
Reconnect with your “wild child” and bring the best of yourself forward in life. Remember the awe of it all, the bliss, the pure joy of simple things.
Find her again. Let her play and run and catch fireflies. You weren’t meant to leave her behind. Becoming a grown-up was never supposed to mean abandoning the child.
An ignored child tends to act out in unpleasant ways. I see adults acting immature and childish all the time. This isn’t what I mean by reconnecting with your “wild child”. This is what happens when you turn your back on her.
It’s time to embrace her, integrate her back into your life so she can flourish and remind you who you really are and what life could really be.
I’d love to help you find her and bring her out to feel the sun on her face, the grass between her toes, to know she is loved and valued. My greatest joy would be to hear her laughter.